Guiding principles - Reflect before you react.

1. Separate the person from their beliefs. Don't dwell on a single opinion or political stance. See the whole person, not just their views.

2. Don't assume moral superiority. It's easy to feel "right" and label others as "wrong." But humility means recognizing that your view is valid, not infallible.

3. Avoid personal attacks and loaded language. Insults shut down conversations. Say, “Here’s how I see it,” instead of, “That’s ridiculous.” Create space for honest exchange, not confrontation.

4. Don't generalize. Avoid painting entire groups with a single brush. One person’s actions don’t represent everyone who shares their beliefs.

5. Understand the roots of belief. Everyone’s views come from a unique blend of upbringing, life experiences, and information sources.

6. Seek common ground. Disagreement doesn’t cancel connection. You might differ politically but agree on education, service, or family values. Start where you align.

7. Move beyond "right vs. wrong." Instead of trying to "win" the conversation, focus on understanding.

8. Examine your own biases. We all have them. Being aware of your assumptions helps you engage more fairly. Questioning your views can lead to greater clarity.

9. Share your perspective. Be open. Don’t feel the need to rebut every point. The goal is connection, not conversion.

10. Listen actively and with respect. Listening doesn’t mean agreement. It shows maturity, openness, and empathy. It is okay to say “I need a break to collect my thoughts.”

11. Choose civility, always. Be respectful. Civility reflects your character and sets a tone for future dialogue.

Disagreement is a part of life. It doesn’t have to become divisive. By practicing empathy, humility, and thoughtful communication, we can make disagreement not just possible, but productive.

Listen more. Assume less. Stay curious.